You know every day I see a husband and wife together sometimes they are happy and having fun together and sometimes they are fighting and cross with each other. I don’t know if it is good or bad, but I would like to take them to a quiet place and try to help them to understand that it is a gift from God that they know each other at all. They should stop and thank Him at least once a day or more for that blessing.
You see I was lucky enough to have a wife for 35 years that I did not have any bad days with, and I am so glad that we made the agreement that we did right after we were married. We agreed that we would not stay mad at each other more than an hour at the most. No matter what we were mad at and we would spend as much time together as we could be each day. To be honest at first it was not too easy, then we found out that the more time we spent together the more we cared for each other. We got so use to doing things together that if we could not do it together we did not do it. This is what I would like to tell all the couples that I see. They need to enjoy each other as much as they can for they don’t know how much time they have left.
One day we were in a car together, I had a wreck and she was killed. It will soon be three years and I was almost killed myself. I have been told by a lot of people that it could not have been helped. The law also told me this, but I must say that does not help me a lot. I would trade places with her in a second. I have prayed to God to do that, but as of now I am still here. I wonder if I am going to hell. You know about, ‘thou shall not kill. I have lost a lot of sleep thinking about that one. But on the up side I spend a lot of time thinking about the good times that we had together.
I have had two specialists tell me I should have died to, that is doctors. One was a heart doctor and the other was a colon doctor. I have asked to trade places with her or just take me to be with her and so far nothing. So you see I could tell all the couples to forget everything they can find to disagree about and be glad to still have time together. You see I don’t know if I would be anything to anyone if I did not have all our good times to think about. I don’t sleep a lot because of what happened. I have half a heart that gives me pain. So I have turned to God for help. I must say that I have found good and bad things in the Bible like in Romans 14:11-13 says, “For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.” I have done that every chance I get, now let me finish. 12 “So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God. 13 Let us not therefore judge one another any more; but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block or on occasion to fall in his brother’s way.”
I think that each time a couple has words they are putting stumbling blocks out for each other. If a child happens to hear them fuss, then what effect does it have on them. I have tried to walk closer with God since the death of my wife than ever before. I know that no man has had a better gift than I did when I meet my wife. I just wish everyone could understand the same thing before it is too late. None of us know how much time we have left on this earth. Married men and women remember that the one you married is a gift from God, treat them as one.
In the book of James, chapter 4, verse 14 and 15 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow; What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. 15 Instead you ought to say, If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that,” You see you should always put God first in everything. You see when you get married and time goes by you should start growing together not apart. So work harder to stay together, please.
In his love,